You gave up, not pushed.

I just realized 2 interesting things in the last hour.

1. when people say something is easy, they mean its hard.

2. its incorrect to say one pushes someone away, the reality is the so called friend gives up and chooses to leave.

Im gonna go more into number 2 for now.

Lets say Person A is in pain and Person B is the friend trying to help Person A. Person A, has had a horrible life and isn't very open or trusting. Person B wants to try but Person A is not very opening to her, finally Person B gives up. Person B says that Person A kept pushing her away.

In otherwords, she blames Person A for all of this. But the reality is, its Person B's fault.

How so? Its simple really, Person B gave up.

If someone truly cared about a person, they would not easily give up. They would know someone in deep pain or had a big history of hurt and sorrow would not be a simple case to take on. Therefore, they are likely to push you away several times, but someone who cared, would stay by their side and try to (even though at a slow pace), prove to that person they are worth opening up to.

The fact is Person B gave up on Person A because she did not care enough about her to commit the time it would take to crack open that shell or break that brick wall Person A has down.

You see, Person B blames Person A as to why she is unable to help Person A out. She claims that she kept pushing her away. But the reality is Person B is to blame because she gave up and chose to just leave. She let herself be pushed away.