Remembering can be painful, but sometimes not being able to can hurt too

My mom had a total of 4 children, I am the youngest. One child, the second died as a stillborn. The oldest child (who was at least 15 years older than me, yeah my mom is old), died when i was around 3 or 4. This just leaves my sister (who is 3 years older than me) and myself.

I have the fewest memories of my eldest sister. My mom said I didn't even really know what was going on. The only thing about the funeral I remember is my mom falling down. The only thing about my sister that I actually remember is that she owned a deck of cards that were green with a gold outline on them.

People say that remembering someone who died is painful. No doubt about it, it hurts because the more time you have with them, the more you miss them.

But what annoys me is when people assume that because you don't remember much about the person, you are not going through any pain.

The tv show Full House often showed this. The character Michelle was only a baby when their mom was killed, it was pretty hard for her as she got older for 2 reasons:

1. she had no mom like all the other girls in her school
2. she has no memories of her mom.

Yes, having no memories can be bad too. Its painful sometimes not being able to remember much about a loved one because of your age. It hurts that people assume you wouldn't be suffering because you don't have much memories thus not much of a connection with the person.

But we deal with a different kind of pain. We have to deal with the fact that we didn't get to know them. Its painful when others can talk about their memories of someone and you have nothing.

You see, a little child who was too young to understand death then, ends up grieving later on in life. They too have to come to terms.

So never assume that because someone is small or little that they can't possibly be in pain for not having much memories or time with the person to form much of an attachment.

If disaster struck, who do you save the rich or the poor?

So I am watching Titanic, and it made me think about the idea that somehow rich peoples lives were more of value than the poor. Republican politicians and libertarian politicians sickingly actually believe this to be true.

God help us.

Why do you think I consider conservatives to be modern day Pharisees? They are greedy.

But to answer the question, I would say its best to save the poor. One person said you just save as many souls as you can save, with no bias to race, gender, age, finances and etc.

Hurricane Katrina showed us that we still value lives based on race and finances as the blacks who were the poorest were not being rescued on time.

In my opinion though, I would rather save a poor person who was generous, than a greedy rich person.

If the world were to end and only a few would live, I would rather the survivors be those who have everyday working skills rather than rich people who don't know how to work like the poor do.

One conservative in an article said that poor peoples lives were expendable, doling out the usual misconceptions about what it means to be poor. He pretty much said there was no value to their lives.

Now if a conservative Christian actually believes this kind of garbage he spouted, you have officially proven that you do not believe in God nor actually live by God.

You see, if they had it their way, and the poor were all gone, that would make the rich the new poor class. You need a poor class to create a rich class. If the poor didn't exist, who would do your work for you?

Rich people are not America, they do not run America. They need and depend on poor people to keep them rich.

Women and Children first

Call me old fashioned, but I miss the days of men being honorable. I liked the fact on the Titanic, it was women and children first.

I get disgusted by a man who puts himself before a woman.

Now of course I disagree with Titanic's murdering of the poor by locking them and thus trapping them.

Lack of women and children first only shows how selfish society has become in the last few years.

If the Earth is going to end, it needs to end SOON.

Also women should not be allowed to fight in combat nor should she be drafted. War is for men, NOT women!

I could never respect nor date or love a man that believes in killing women and letting them be tortured simply because they women wanted the right to be able to hold jobs and get the same pay for it.

I am very traditional, and only a little bit of an independent woman. I do not like all that feminazi crap, and I can't stand sexist women haters who believe in punishing women by making them take on men's roles all because they wanted equal pay and the ability to have jobs.

Also, children need their moms much more than their fathers. When a divorce happens, I agree, the child should automatically go to the mom. Who gives a crap what the dad wants?

In the end women went through centuries of hell all because of men, now men need to learn how to deal with it. They have been boasting how strong they are for so long...PROVE IT!

Why do people vote for people they abandon when they lose?

Case in point: John McCain and George Bush.

Towards the end Bush's 8 years, even Republicans kept saying enough is enough. Some hated him so much they called him a liberal.

When McCain came along, they were gung-ho! But when he started to lose and the Palin campaign came along to make him look bad, all of a sudden they were saying that McCain was a liberal, and he isn't a true Republican.

So I ask, why do people abandon someone simply when they are no loner winning, when before they were so gung-ho?

The answer is that they simply were voting for the what they thought was the "lesser of two evils". Now obviously Obama is the lesser of two evils (Palin is the devil's wife) but that is where the problem with politics lies.

People keep voting democrat and republican even when they say how they hate it. Don't blame the government when you are not willing to vote who you want in the first place.

It makes you and your party look very bad when you parade around someone and then when they lose you start bad mouthing them. I don't want someone in the Presidency for the wrong reasons. If your badmouthing shows how you really feel, then do yourself a favor and start voting for the one you would still defend even AFTER losing!

A Depressing Truth: For Every Happy person there is an Unhappy person

As hard as it is for happy people to believe, for every happy person there is, someone else is upset.

The cold truth is, one can't possibly be happy without someone else being unhappy. In fact one's happiness comes from the fact that the other person did not get a happy result.

Say you got a new digital camera. You are obviously happy you got it. But that means someone else did not get it, and therefore they are not unhappy.

Sure your argument would be "well they could always go to another store", but somebody..someone, out there will not being getting a camera.

Or how about when you get good grades but your friend does not?

The reality is that someone else has to be unhappy for you to be happy. You may not have to see it for yourself, or even know the person (but usually you do).

I like to call this phenomenon forced sacrificing because one is having to sacrifice their happiness for someone else, but its being forced.

A good example of this can be love. When you like a guy, but he goes for someone else, you are sacrificing forcibly your chance to have him. You have no choice but to give up your happiness which means the girl that gets your crush will be happy as will your crush.

The sucky thing about forced sacrificing is obviously that its forced. Essentially every time you are unhappy its out of force and someone else is enjoying the happiness that should belong to you.

At least admit you celebrate the consumer holiday

Even though Christmas is over, I can't help but say it annoys me when conservative Christians criticize everyone for celebrating Christmas in its consumer holiday aspect.

Why does this annoy me? Because they are doing it too!!! Cons think that going to church on Christmas or Christmas Eve, makes the difference in celebrating Christmas as a consumer holiday or as a religious holiday.

In the end, Christians still do presents, decorations, and many other Christmas consumer traditions. So they are just as guilty. True Christians do not celebrate Jesus' birthday by getting something or putting up things that have no relation to his birth.

There is nothing wrong with celebrating the consumer holiday, but admit to it rather than dress it up as a Christian thing and then chastise others for celebrating it in its consumer form.

This goes for all holidays.

The person who knows how to sew has it the best

I wish I could sew, as time consuming as it would be, the benefit to knowing how to sew means you can wear whatever you want in a way you would want it. You would be following your own rules.

Its hard to find 1950s style clothing out there, and there aren't many vintage type clothing stores to go t0.

If you knew how to sew, then you could make your own 1950s clothing, and best of all, you could choose your own fabric....

I wish I knew how to sew : (