Comfort in being alone

I am a big advocate in the "comfort in being alone" ideology.

One cannot begin to be comfortable with themselves, and even like themselves let alone love themselves, if they are not comfortable in being alone.

You see, when you vie for friends, and don't want to be alone or want to find happiness in being alone, you will often do whatever you can to have friends.

For example: You like R&B and Pop, a group of people you are often around prefer country music and don't like r&b and pop whatsoever. In order to be friends with them you hide what you like and do not make mention of it. The fact that you did that can open up the doors to allowing yourself to be walked all over by them because the fact that you would change what you like to fit their needs allows them to do whatever they want to you because you vie not to be alone and vie for friends.

In the end, they are not truly your friends and so you gave up being you for people that don't like you and you come up losing.

Now, the thing is by being you, yes its possible to make enemies. But if you can accept being alone and find happiness and fun in being alone, then you will become more solid in being you because the fear of being friendless and alone isn't painful or scary anymore because you know you can still have fun and happiness alone.

Its true, that if you can't find happiness in being you, then you are not going to find happiness at all.

Opinions matter to an extent, based on who it is coming from and the grounds of which the opinion is based on.

But we can't live by those opinions all the time. There is always going to be someone who disagrees...one just has to become firm in what they want and not what others want. It is too easy to fall into the trap of people pleasing.